why i try to refrain from matchmaking

well, its true, i have a constant urge to matchmake. i'm pretty picky for people, i put some thought in to it, and i've had some successes (?). i think it's the romantic in me. however, let's just say i've had some terrible blunders as well. . . here are my three favorites . . .

in high school, there was this very cute football player, chad, who i sat behind in physics. now, i had a boyfriend, but i thought--now he deserves someone special. as i got to know him i figured out he was a christian, more of the pentacostal variety. now i also knew this really georgeous young woman, heather, in choir who didn't date much, because, well she a "Show Choir" type of gal -- not particularly cool at my high school. she also was a christian of the pentecostal variety. anyway, i set them up, totally. they dated for years, got married . . . and later . . .had a really crappy divorce. it sucked.

another time i was a dorm director and wanted to set my friend trey up with one of my RAs. they seemed to have a lot in common and both were so adorable. same age, smart, blond, tan, and a little nerdy. so cv and i took them out on a double date. they literally became mute. two people i knew to be very adequate conversationalists in all other circumstances stopped talking all together. it was immensely awkward and not a success.

finally, a more recent set-up was a real heartbreaker. it was one of those, wouldn't it be great if cv's good friend dated/married my good friend and we lived down the street from one another and had babies, etc? so i thought two people, same general age, similar interests, both attractive, both bilingual. it just made sense. so cv encourages the guy--he "asks her out". they are out on their first date and i call her just to be queer and say "so, you know this is a real date." she panics. . . she is totally not interested in the guy. it just evolves into this uncomfortable he likes her, she doesn't like him sort of thing. what was i thinking?

so, i still long to matchmake. but let's just say i'm a bit more cautious and really try to do my homework before proceeding. but really how can i resist with all these wonderful single people in my life who i just know must have a "special someone" out there waiting for them . . .